What To Do and What Not To Do for Targets

Do:

recognize that you are being bullied.

become aware of the behaviors and accept that it is not your fault.

avoid self-blame for having become a target. Bullying is about the bully, not the target.

develop a sense of emotional detachment from the bully’s behaviors.

document in writing every incident of bullying. Include the date of the incident, time, place, person or persons involved, names of witnesses and some direct quotes of what was said to you. Include examples of how the bully’s behavior negatively impacts the company’s mission and goals.

gather a support system around you…employees, friends and family.

talk to the person available in the company to help with personnel issues.

use Employee Assistance Programs (EAP) to support you during this process and help maintain your self-esteem.

see your family physician for physical distress.

Don’t:

believe that it is your fault and that you caused the bully’s behavior.

react emotionally to the bully. Stay cool, confident and aware.

become critical of yourself and your performance…become a workplace warrior not a workplace victim.